“You become what you love. Love is alchemy. Never love the wrong thing because it will transform you. Nothing is as transformative as love. Love something that can lift you higher, to the peaks.” – OSHO
Being with the wrong person is like buying a pair of shoes that don’t fit your feet. You found something that meets a need, offering temporary satisfaction and happiness, but eventually, the shoes start to rub your feet and you realize they’re not right for you. However, since you paid a lot of money for them, you think you should give those shoes a chance.
Possible Main Reasons for Staying in a Relationship with the Wrong Person
- One of the most common reasons is the fear of being alone or the fear that no better person will come along. When staying in a relationship that doesn’t align with your values, you need to remind yourself that you might be missing the chance to meet the right person for you.
- A long relationship can be as comfortable as an old pair of shoes. Resistance to change is human nature, no matter how healthy that change may be.
- Financial dependence. Perhaps one of the main reasons you stay with this person is the need for someone to share bills with. This is a difficult situation, but trying to take steps toward financial stability can help you regain your independence.
Possible Signs That You Are with the Wrong Person:
Some people may know deep down that they are with the wrong person, but they might need to look closer at their feelings.
- If you often feel dissatisfied, irritated, or unhappy, if you are the one constantly putting effort into the relationship, if you are always the one forgiving and having to seek attention from the other side, something is wrong.
- If you constantly desire more. Your partner might seem wonderful — well-educated, loyal, trustworthy, a good friend. But if you often feel like something is missing; a spark, excitement...
- If You Have No Future Plans Together.You make future plans with the person you love — building a home with two kids, pursuing a master's degree together, moving to a new city... But if these dreams are not shared by the person in your life, if they never imagine a future with you, the relationship might be wrong.
No one is perfect, but a happy relationship affects every area of your life.
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